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Anonymous said: hello dearest, thank you so much for answering the ask about "letting go" from yesterday. I was afraid of this answer, but hey, if it's my body I cannot change it can I.. anyway, thank you so much. I'll try to embrace that part of me and hope my partner does, too.
Yay! Let us know what happens. xox
Anonymous said: My favorite part about sex is going down on a girl. I never saw this as a problem. I mean, if my jaw allowed it, I'd spend weeks down there. However, I recently ran into a problem that I was oblivious to until a recent sex partner brought it up. She said I am too willing and it makes me unattractive. I never saw it that way. Have you had or heard of similar experiences? If so, do you have any advice on how to deal with my situation?
Never heard of that. There are definitely women who don’t LIKE receiving oral, but of the women I know who DO like receiving oral, a partner being “overly willing” to give oral would never, ever be a problem. In fact, it would be a huge plus.
There are lots of other women out there with whom you’d be extremely sexually compatible. If this woman’s attitude about oral is making you feel bad, you don’t have to stay with her. Sexual compatibility matters.
Anonymous said: hello, I am really embarassed. I've enjoyed pleasing and being pleased but I've never let go. When it starts to build up I am afraid that I will [so sorry] lose water. you know, up front. I have no desire to allow such a bodily function in front of anyone but I am afraid of letting go and letting it happen. Is it just a similar feeling? I am so afraid to mess up. And I really need to finally let go. I have not had an orgasm in my entire life. Please give me your valued opinion.
Sounds like you’re scared that you might squirt (female ejaculation)! There’s nothing to be ashamed of about that. A significant minority of women are squirters and plenty of their partners really like it!
I would suggest peeing before you engage in sexual activity and laying down a couple of thick folded towels underneath you. Then, when you want to let go, just do it. If you pee or squirt or anything else, it won’t matter because the towels will protect the fabric underneath you.
I’d also suggest trying it by yourself before doing it with a partner, because it could assuage your fears to know what’s going to happen before sharing it with someone else.