Anonymous asked: My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half. Sexually our relationship has always been great but over the past few months it's like she wants is cunnilingus. Cunnilingus has always been my thing, she has me go down on her every morning and every night and once she orgasms she's done with me. I make her cum everyday twice a day and I go days without getting my cock touched. What am I doing wrong? How can I fix this? It's almost like I've become her little slave, weird.
As with almost all sexual problems, the answer is: COMMUNICATE.
She might not be on the same page as you about this stuff. She might not know you want/expect reciprocation. She might not know that the amount of cunnilingus she’s getting feels excessive to you. She might not know you have any kind of problem with what’s going on. So TELL HER.
When you talk to her about it, ask her if there’s anything you could do to make her more interested in stimulating you. Maybe she’d like you to shower first, or offer to clean up the mess of semen afterward. Maybe she’s bored and would like to explore new acts and/or fantasies. Maybe she’s developed a physical or mental condition that makes it difficult for her to give you sexual attention. ASK HER.
If she’s unwilling to talk about it or do anything about it, I give you full permission to lay off the cunnilingus for a while, or at least do it less often. Some people say using sex as a bargaining chip is an automatic no-no, but if you’ve communicated what you want and your partner isn’t doing anything to remedy the situation, holding off on her might be a good incentive, and it might allow her to understand how you’re feeling a little better.
Hope that helps! Let us know how it goes.
